Living by Resonance ~ Choosing alignment over obligation.

Living by Resonance ~ Choosing alignment over obligation

There was a season when my calendar decided who I was.
Not in theory, in breath.

I would feel it before I named it: a tightness behind the eyes, a subtle drag in the chest, the way my steps shortened as the hour approached. Nothing was wrong. Everything was reasonable. Expected. Approved.

And still, something in me leaned back.

For a long time, I thought that feeling was resistance.
I tried to discipline it away.

What I was actually sensing was resonance—or the absence of it.

Resonance does not shout.
It does not argue its case.
It either hums… or it doesn’t.

I remember the day I didn’t show up.
No dramatic exit. No explanation tour.
Just a quiet email sent, a chair left empty, a morning that opened instead of closed.

The relief surprised me.
Not because it was pleasurable ~ but because it was clean.

Obligation always leaves residue.
Resonance leaves space.

Living by resonance isn’t about doing what feels good.
It’s about noticing what fits before you force yourself to adjust.

There are moments when alignment asks for courage.
And moments when it simply asks for honesty.

I’ve learned to listen for the body’s first response, the half-second before the story arrives.

Expansion.
Contraction.
Stillness.

That signal has never lied to me.
I have lied over it.

When I choose resonance now, my life grows quieter but more exact.
Fewer explanations.
Cleaner edges.
Longer breaths.

Some doors close without protest.
Others were never meant to open.

This isn’t a rule.
It’s a recognition.

You don’t owe your life to what drains it.
You don’t betray anyone by standing where you are true.

There is a way of moving that does not require justification.
Only listening.

Sit with that.